Team Player?

I was just thinking...

Marriage is about teamwork. In order to accomplish that, you must have mutual goals. Everyone must contribute to the success of "YOUR TEAM".

For instance, if Kobe was the only Laker on the court playing for a championship game, he'd never win. At some point, he would get tired and either sit down or fall down, with no team. But, with a little team effort, he becomes stronger. He knows that someone else is there to help carry the load. Even if he is the MVP, he has support.

Everyone doesn't have to be the star of the show. Every persons role is vital, but it takes support from all players.

No one person should be left to carry the weight...financially, domestically, socially, etc. If they do it alone, all they will feel is drained.

In marriage we should feel like we are being built up, not torn down.

Are you on a team, or are you a drained MVP?

thoughts...

The Dinner Party...

First of all, who's job is it anyway to invite people to the house? Come on, tell the truth. We all well know that when company comes to the crib, the boss (read the wife) has the final say so. I ain't mad at you, that's just how it is. Well as the story goes, we've invited a few people and the RSVP's aren't just rolling in if you know what I mean. Hmmm, maybe we really are boring people?

So the closer the date gets, the more stressful this "fun" occasion becomes. 

"Why don't you do something to help with this party? While you're at it, why don't you do anything period! Why don't you ever do something around this house (besides take out the trash, cut the grass, wash dishes sometimes, take a kid to school, oh yeah, bring in a paycheck...blah blah blah)?..."

Where did all of that come from? What's up with that? I'll do something alright, I'll cancel this thing and won't think twice about it.

Do tell...

-Jack

Kiss Me You Fool

How many of you still KISS your spouse?

I mean really kiss your spouse passionately.
If not much, why not? If often, what makes you want to?

Do tell...

Is He/She still the one?

Have you ever wondered if you married the right person? Before you answer, remember ALL postings are anonymous:-)!

What made you know that you made the right choice/a BIG mistake?

If you had it to do all over again, would he/she still be the one?

Pursuing Individual Goals...

Why does it feel like some spouses don't want you to succeed? I mean, you have a new endeavor (e.g. school, promotion, career change, exercise, business idea) and there is little to know encouragement.

You are so excited and cannot wait to share, then you tell your spouse and he/she is like "Great...do you know where the peanut butter is?"

WTF? What do you mean?

What do you do when the person you most want to hear encouragement from seems less than interested?

Holla Back???

Did I get married too young?

What is the right age to get married? My girlfriends and I all seem to think that a woman shouldn't get married before 28, but most of us did.
Tell me your thoughts...

If you were under 25 getting married, if you had it to do all over again, would you get married young?

This one is for the ladies...

My husband is an idiot...

Well maybe not all the time, but today he's an idiot. He acts like he can't do anything on his own without me telling him. "... take out the trash. Feed the dog. Feed the kids...". Why should I have to tell him to do the obvious? Come on man, you're killing me here. Jill, Jack... somebody help me here!

-Frustrated and P.O.-ed

What in the world?

Ok, we're joining the 21st century & jumping into the world of blogs and the like. I know, welcome to the party, right? But with all the options and ways to skin a cat (sorry cat lovers), we weren't quite sure how to put it all together. And as you can probably tell, this thing is just a work in progress. So come in, kick off your shoes and contribute. This is the place for all things marriage where you will get the guy & the girl perspective. And hopefully somewhere in the middle a "Light Bulb" moment will happen.

If you are already married, you know how crazy, unscripted yet fun the ride is. For those yet to take the plunge, get ready for the ride of your life! It's going to be awesome.

-Jill & Jack

Topic for the day, 5/17/2008

Happy weekend! So what shall we talk about today? How about why my yard is never cut. Come on ladies, what are we supposed to do about the yard? The man doesn't want anyone else to touch "their" yard. But in the meantime, we're living in a jungle with weeds up to the roof. What's a girl to do to have her yard looking nice?

Thoughts...

If that was me, I woulda...

Ok, long story short, he bought a motorcycle and didn't even tell me. Is that a slap in the face or what? It really doesn't matter that he got a really good deal on it ($2,500) or if I love bikes too. The point is that he bought such a big item and totally disregarded my feelings about it. What should I do?